The word perception is the BEST word to use when talking about intimacy of any kind. It is especially revelatory when it comes to seeing into your true self. Gaining INSIGHT into self- who you really are- can be done by going to counseling or by doing therapy in the traditional way. That is my profession so I understand the intimate relationship between therapist and client. It is a wonderfully intimate relationship because it is a safe place to delve into your deepest self.